I won't judge or criticize, but I will listen to you and your point of view. Recovery from an affair is a long, difficult journey and I will try to help you get your life back.
Some people never regain trust or intimacy, and feel alone in their relationship.
Please don't give up - with therapy, it IS possible to attain better-than-ever relationships!
An affair forces your problems into the limelight - you have a choice to make.
Sweep them under the carpet (which never works) OR deal with them and get on with life.
Sometimes partners never let it go because the betrayal they feel never stops hurting (e.g. ten years later still comes up in arguments). Sound familiar?
I know how tired you are from arguing; probably not getting much sleep either. It interferes with everything - how you relate to your partner, your kids, your co-workers, etc. Your stress is at an all-time high.